Sexual Harassment in the Industry

Sexual Harassment in the Service Industry



5 thoughts on “Sexual Harassment in the Industry

  1. That’s “Merriam-Webster,” actually.

    I usually agree with you, but there’s no reasonable way that seeing two friends hug can be considered sexual harassment. The third party in that case is not sensitive, but oversensitive. It can be annoying, perhaps, not not harassment. Widening the scope of the word’s definition like that seems counterproductive and hysterical.

  2. Sexual Harrassment is a touchy (pun intended) topic.

    At my store, we have sexual harrasment all day long.

    There are about 98% of people that don’t care.

    We slap each other on the butt, pinch chubs, dry hump, etc..

    No one is offended, its fun for us.

  3. Our employee manual defines Harassment as “any deliberate conduct that has the purpose or effect of creating an intimidating, hostile, or offensive working environment,” so I can see someone complaining about hugging etc., but it wouldn’t get very far. I’m sure it would have to be looked at though, as a company would ignore such a complaint at their peril. There is plenty of over-the-top intentional stuff anyway. There does need to be more attention to it, too much is blown off (no pun) and not dealt with.

  4. Good Afternoon, Ribeye;

    First things first: while this is my first comment on your blog, I have been reading you for months now, and I always find your blog to be entertaining, well-written, and thought provoking.

    As a manager myself, I have had more than a little experience with “Gender Based Discrimination”; usually in trying to prevent it amongst my staff, or in trying to counsel my fellow managers against it — with varying degrees of success in both areas.

    In response to Peter Lynn’s comment: While I cannot answer for Tennesee, I can say with some authority that “Third Party Sexual Harrassment” is alive and well in California. “Two Friends Hugging” can and does cause harassement according to the courts in California, first of all because California has a Subjective standard (If you feel like you are being harassed, you are) vs an Objective standard (a “bright line rule”, where the limits are reasonably well defined).

    The typical 3rd-party harassement takes place when a manager/supervisor has a fling with a worker, who then gets special treatment (better shifts, higher raises, whatever) as a result. A third party who does not get the same raises/shifts/whatever might then have a cause of action for harassament as a direct result.

    Okay, off my soap-box. Ribeye, keep up the GREAT WORK!

  5. There is one huge contributor of sexual harassment that you neglected to cover: customers sexually harassing their servers. As a former young female waitress, many men (especially older men, men my father’s age) somehow felt it was appropriate hit on, touch or grope, leer at, and talk about inappropriate sexual subjects with or around me. Now, I don’t have a problem with a bunch of guys talking about their conquests, bragging, or whatever; but when the comments are directed toward or are made about the server, the busser, the hostess or whomever, it is inappropriate and unacceptable. And for the most part CASUAL flirtation (not blatant pick up lines or lewd conversation, but polite conversation about mutual interest when both parties seem receptive) is not inappropriate, so long as the server returns it without it being awkward. But it is very degrading and disgusting to have your ass grabbed by a man older than your father.
    And I do have to say, it is not only females who are targeted. I’ve seen women of all ages attempt to grope a male waiter, and think of it as funny. So not only do the people in a restaurant have to watch out for sexual harassment issues with the rest of the staff, but with customers, too.

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